My DDH and turn of events - Part 2

Next week DDH has an appointment with vascular surgeon. It is unclear if I am to attend or not.

My DDH and turn of events

2:45 am. Awake again. Lots of events since my last post.

Last week I went with my DDH to neurosurgeon consult on a surgical pain relief solution for his back. Here are the facts:

• Degenerative disc disease, diabetes, venous stasis ulcers on his legs
• ALIF disc fusion surgery can reduce pain level from 9-10 to a 2-3 with 90% success rate
• Vascular surgeon can determine what needs to happen (weight loss) in order to make the incision in the belly for the neurosurgeon to do the ALIF
• Information on ALIF including a video website were given
• Venous stasis ulcers must be clear
• It was suggested that bariatric surgery might be part of the solution
• Referrals to vascular surgeon, weight loss clinic were provided

No further discussion of this has taken place.

I have come to understand...

Through God's mercy and grace, I have come to believe the following things to be true about my circumstance:

• I live with a DDH (dear diabetic husband) who is an out of control diabetic.
• I have been co-dependent with my diabetic.
• I am not responsible for his eating habits, or health.
• I am responsible for my own eating habits, and health.
• I live with a person who has chronic pain
• I am sympathetic.
• I try to be supportive of his efforts to control his pain.
• I live with a verbally abusive man.
• I am learning what that means.

I am so grateful for the people in my life who love and support me.

• Tracie; for her business sense, and her ability to see clearly and speak clearly when I cannot.
• Becky; for her relationship with God. She inspires me by telling me God's truth. She does not allow me to weasel my way out.
• Kathy; for her love, companionship, listening ear, and her great laugh. I love having such great fun with her. Our Mom's truly gave us a gift of relationship.